Merriam-Webster online says:
(1): the state of being united to a person of the opposite sex as husband or wife in a consensual and contractual relationship recognized by law
(2) : the state of being united to a person of the same sex in a relationship like that of a traditional marriage
(marriage: b: the mutual relation of married persons"

Strongs says:
(In the Old Testament, `ownah {o-naw'}.
1) cohabitation, conjugal rights

(In the New Testament, gamos {gam'-os}
1) a wedding or marriage festival, a wedding banquet, a wedding feast
2) marriage, matrimony

What are the Biblical requirements for considering oneself to be "married"? (What does the Bible say?)

1) Marriage is God's invention
Genesis 2:18 "Then the LORD God said, "It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him."

2) Marriage means to leave and hold fast
Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh."

3) Marriage is a covenant - and God is the witness.
Malachi 2:14 "But you say, "Why does he not?" Because the LORD was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by covenant."

4) Marriage is a relationship that is recognized and/or regulated by law.
Romans 13:1 "Let every person be subject to the governing authorities." Unless we have a real reason to believe that the state is asking us to sin by following the law in order to be married, we must obey the laws of the land.

5) Marriage is a reflection of God and His people. In the Old Testament, the people were Israel, in the New Testament, it is the church. As Paul wrote, this is a mystery.

What do you have to DO to be "married"?

Do you need to have a ceremony? No - the Bible never says that there must be a ceremony in order to be married in the eyes of God. Marriage is an life-long agreement between a man and a woman.

Do you need to be married by a minister? No - the Bible never says that.

Does marriage belong to the church? No - God created marriage to be a life-long agreement between a man and a woman and virtually all societies have had marriages of one sort or another. The Bible does not say that marriage belongs to the church.

What about traditions?

They are traditions - and some very nice ones, too. But they are only traditions. The wedding traditions of the ancient world were very different from our traditions today. But their marriages were just as much marriages then as ours are today. Nearly every society marks the beginning of a marriage with a ceremony or rite, but it is not necessary, except to our human minds.

God and His Word clearly tell us that marriage is designed to be for life. A man and a woman in a covenantal arrangement, with God as the witness.

The ESV

Archaic language has been brought to current usage and significant corrections have been made in the translation of key texts. But throughout, our goal has been to retain the depth of meaning and enduring language that have made their indelible mark on the English-speaking world and have defined the life and doctrine of the church over the last four centuries.

The ESV is based on the Masoretic text of the Hebrew Bible as found in Biblia Hebraica Stuttgartensia (2nd ed., 1983), and on the Greek text in the 1993 editions of the Greek New Testament (4th corrected ed.), published by the United Bible Societies (UBS), and Novum Testamentum Graece (27th ed.), edited by Nestle and Aland.

The currently renewed respect among Old Testament scholars for the Masoretic text is reflected in the ESV’s attempt, wherever possible, to translate difficult Hebrew passages as they stand in the Masoretic text rather than resorting to emendations or to finding an alternative reading in the ancient versions.

In exceptional, difficult cases, the Dead Sea Scrolls, the Septuagint, the Samaritan Pentateuch, the Syriac Peshitta, the Latin Vulgate, and other sources were consulted to shed possible light on the text, or, if necessary, to support a divergence from the Masoretic text. Similarly, in a few difficult cases in the New Testament, the ESV has followed a Greek text different from the text given preference in the UBS/Nestle-Aland 27th edition.

My daughter and I took a beginning Greek class and this was the one that the instructor told us was most faithful to the ancient text...

I have to deal with rosacea in my life. I have discovered what my triggers are and how to minimize it, but not how to really control it.

Until now (I think).

I recently found an article on this little critter that lives in your hair follicles. What I did find was a website that urges natural treatments instead of pharmaceuticals . That website recommended "Grandpa's Pine Tar Soap"

I have not had a flareup in a month.

This concludes the advertisement....

😉

(oh yes...tonight is my first night with a CPAP)

In honor of Reformation Day.  I was listening to a local radio program this morning and Martin Luther's entire speech was read.

Read this line a couple of times: If, then, I am not convinced by proof from Holy Scripture, or by cogent reasons, if I am not satisfied by the very text I have cited, and if my judgment is not in this way brought into subjection to God’s word, I neither can nor will retract anything; for it can not be right for a Christian to speak against his country. I stand here and can say no more. God help me. Amen. 

MOST SERENE EMPEROR, AND YOU ILLUSTRIOUS PRINCES AND GRACIOUS LORDS:—I this day appear before you in all humility, according to your command, and I implore your majesty and your august highnesses, by the mercies of God, to listen with favor to the defense of a cause which I am well assured is just and right. I ask pardon, if by reason of my ignorance, I am wanting in the manners that befit a court; for I have not been brought up in king’s palaces, but in the seclusion of a cloister.

...continue reading →

(NOTE: FOR SOME REASON, THE LAST COMMENTS ARE NOT SHOWING UP IN FIREFOX, BUT ARE IN IE.)

About the Roman Catholic church and divorce and remarriage!

The more I learn, the more I realize that (as Moonshadow pointed out), the dogma/doctrine of annulment runs in the opposite direction. We can examine this dogma (or is it doctrine?) against Scripture. We know that that Scripture is my final authority (and considered here as the only infallible rule of faith and conduct). In examining traditions/dogma/doctrine of other denominations/religions I examine against Scripture to see if "it's in there".
From what I understand, getting an annulment means that you have to:

1. make different "categories" of marriage (sacramental vs. "not") - which I don't find in the Bible. The website I linked to referred to "true marriage", meaning that some marriages are not true, a concept that I cannot find in the Bible.
2. make a case before the church that your marriage before God never existed.

Having entered into a marriage contract (which is in the Bible and is considered "marriage"), you are married. Or (according to the Roman Catholic church) maybe not.

If you find yourself in a "not a marriage" (for lack of a better term) it's because of

• psychological reasons
• misrepresentation or fraud
• Refusal or inability to consummate the marriage (inability or refusal to have sex)
• Bigamy, incest (being married to someone else, or close relatives)
• Duress (being forced or coerced into marriage against one's will or serious external pressure, for example a pregnancy)
• Mental incapacity (considered unable to understand the nature and expectations of marriage)
• Lack of knowledge or understanding of the full implications of marriage as a life-long commitment in faithfulness and love, with priority to spouse and children.
• Psychological inability to live the marriage commitment as described above.
• Illegal "Form of Marriage" (ceremony was not performed according to Catholic canon law)
• One/both partners was under the influence of drugs, or addicted to a chemical substance.

Which of these is actually Scriptural? As one who believes that Scripture is the final and only infallible source of faith and conduct, we can examine each of these reasons against Scripture to see if they are Scripturally sound.

The first thing to look for is any place in the Bible where a marriage is labeled "not a marriage" before God. I don't find one.

• Christ, while talking to the woman at the well, said that she had had several husbands - were these all annulled? Jesus considered them valid marriages, or He would have said something different. But He didn't, He called them marriages.
• Consider Onan, who married Tamar in a Leverite marriage and didn't fulfill his end of the bargain. The Bible never tells us that it was not a valid marriage.
• Because it's the law of our land (in the USA), bigamy and incest would have the marriage not be valid to start with (without the judgment of the church). No annulment should be needed, because it was an illegal marriage. Inthe Bible, Jacob married his first cousins and the marriage was never considered anything but a marriage. In the New Testament, living with your father's wife was condemned and church leaders are prohibited from plural marriages.
• Canon Law; Scripture doesn't give a form for marriage (meaning that it must be done in a church and/or by clergy). In the Old Testament, the Law said that if a woman in captured in war, a man shaves her head, waits a period of time and then has sex with her. I suppose you could call that a "form", but it also contradicts the Roman Catholic exception for "duress" - at least for the woman). There was no ceremony in a church.
• question: if a man becomes impotent, can the wife get an annulment?

The New Testament gives us two reasons for a Biblical divorce. In the Bible, we are never told that there must be additional paperwork by the "church" in order to remarry. In the Bible, a Biblical divorce comes with the right to remarry.

The Roman Catholic Church considers a marriage valid when:

• It is celebrated in a ceremony according to church law
• both parties are free to marry each other
• each party intends from the beginning of the marriage to accept God's plan for married life, as taught by the church
• each party has the physical and psychological ability to live out the consent and commitment initially given to the marriage.

Again, let's examine this against Scripture. The Bible never tells us that a "valid" marriage must be celebrated in a ceremony.

That both parties are free is a Biblical concept.

Intentions don't appear to matter (again consider Onan) and (other than the ability to consumate the marriage) physical or psychological reasons don't appear in the Bible.

My conclusion is:

If you are divorced for Biblical reasons, the divorce is Biblical and the marriage DID exist. A person is free to remarry. You don't need an annulment.

If you are divorced for unbiblical reasons, there is still hope an forgiveness (read this). But the marriage still existed and you still don't need an annulment.

(One thing, though...I know a woman who married a man in prison and that was never consumated. Even according to our court system, that was called an annulment by the law.

• NOTE: Any debate on this post MUST be on a Biblical basis. We can examine the doctrine of annulment against Scripture or we can not discuss it.

If there was the same justice for all - across the board, I'd on the fast track to hell.

God is a just God, but somehow, unjustly, He saved me.

Our text this morning was Luke 18; the parable of the Pharasee and the tax collector. Read the parable and then click read what came before (you'll have to go to chapter 17) and look at who Jesus was talking to. He was with His disciples. The section that the parable was in begins, "He also told this parable to some who trusted in themselves that they were righteous, and treated others with contempt..."

If salvation was about "justice", those who were "good" would be the ones saved. Instead, the ones who know that they are "bad" - those who rely on Christ (and Christ alone) who are saved by grace, through faith.

Jesus used this parable to tell his followers (the ones who were trusting in themselves and their own good works) that it wasn't about justice, it was about mercy.

If it had been about justice, the Pharisee had it all together.  He tithed, he fasted, he did all the right things.   He belonged to the right church, he did the "paperwork", performed the right rites.  And he thanked God that he wasn't like that man over there...the one who didn't have it all together.
But it's not about justice, it's about mercy.  The tax collector knew that he didn't have it all together.   He knows it's about mercy.

In the broadest sense, there has been justice, Blood has been shed.  Christ's blood.

But in the narrow sense - the "me" sense - I have not paid my debt; it was paid for me.

It's not about what we do, it's about who Christ is.

It's not about what we have done, it's about what Christ has done.

Don't ask me how I ended up here...but involved studying for my test on the human nervous system...

On October 31, 1517, Martin Luther nailed his Ninety-five Theses on the Castle Church door in Wittenberg.

And thus began the Reformation.  Today, there are four traditions that have come to us through the Reformation:  Lutheren, Anabaptist, Anglican (which is closest to Roman Catholic) and Calvinist.

Eventually "boiled down" to the "Solas", the Reformation was a call for return to the Scripture as the authority for Christian faith and conduct.

I've written quite a bit on the "Solas" - but because of the way things worked out have not written on "Soli Deo Gloria" (to the glory of God alone) and a lot on "Sola Scriptura".  There is a lot of great material on Monergism.com.  Monergism's rundown of the Sola's centers not on Luther's points of debate with the Roman Catholic church; they  look at how we should be applying the Sola's today.

I grew up in a church full of rules.  Don't drink that, don't play with those, don't go to this event.   And I stayed, for most of my life in the church, in churches that focused on what we had to do in order to stay in good standing with God.

It wasn't until I "reformed" that I examined what I grew up with against Scripture...and I changed.

There is nothing in me...nothing...that merits my salvation.  Everything good in me flows from Christ and Christ alone.

There is nothing that I can do to earn my salvation...Christ has already paid the price.

For it by grace we are saved, through faith...and that not of ourselves.

That's what the reformation is all about...reforming...examining everything against the Word...constantly reforming.

4 1/4 pounds; seventeen (17) sticks of butter.  Total of 7 1/4 pounds in 5 weeks.  (ok, it could be going faster, but I'm not feeling deprived)

The Road Not Chosen (a blog I read - almost - daily) has a very good post on embryonic stem cell research.  This is written by the mother of a young man who could benefit from this research.