From "The Gender Blog"
The article is mostly good, but when the whopper comes...
Misconception #4: Submission is a right-a husband has the right to demand his wife's submission.
A husband does not have the right to demand or extract submission from his wife. Submission is HER choice-her responsibility... it is NOT his right!! Not ever. She is to "submit herself"- deciding when and how to submit is her call. In a Christian marriage, the focus is never on rights, but on personal responsibility. It's his responsibility to be affectionate. It's her responsibility to be agreeable. The husband's responsibility is to sacrificially love as Christ loved the Church-not to make his wife submit.
My thought is that a Christian man, who has married a woman who claims to be a Christian, has the right to expect her to act like one. That includes being a submissive wife.
If he has not rights, then he is effectively in a hostage situation. Not a pleasant place.
She is to "submit herself"- deciding when and how to submit is her call.
The "when" is when she says "I do" on the altar.
The "how" is "as unto the Lord."
Anything other than that is disobedience to the Law of Christ, Scripture and love. It saddens me to see Kassian teach so.