So if the relationship is sour, it *must* be because she's not acknowledging his leadership well enough. If she agrees with everything he says and complies in every single way, then there won't be any problems, now will there?
(No problems, but not much of a REAL relationship to speak of, either)... 🙁
I see that particular emphasis as being abusive in and of itself, even if the guy does not resort to physical violence, the emotional violence done to a woman in that kind of a "relationship" is enormous. In effect she ceases to exist.
I guess I would need to ask what "kind of 'relationship'" is being referred to? Complementarian? If it is complementarian marriages in general, it becomes more difficult to believe that egalitarians do not see all complementarian men in general are abusive.
If there is a different "kind of 'relationship'" being referred to, it would be helpful to know exactly what is being referred to?
I do have a few thoughts on "ceasing to exist".
Do we "cease to exist" when we are in Christ? (Since Scripture refers multiple times in both New and Old Testaments as God / Christ relating to His peoples as husband and wife, it's a reasonable thing to do).
Is God / Christ being abusive when He gives us His commandments?
ALSO: is dying to one's self necessarily a bad thing? If the giving up on one's self leads to a greater tie of "one-flesh", why is that bad? Especially since BOTH parties may be required to do exactly that.