9 - What are you looking for in a life time mate?

Faithfulness.  Love.  A ministry partner.  A leader of the home.

10 - define "love" within a marriage

Love within a marriage is a little different than love between fellow human beings.

When you love your spouse, you love your own flesh.  You love the one whose body belongs to you.

For me (a woman), it means that I'll strive to submit to my husband as the church submits to Christ.

We share the same life, the same goals, the same will.

For him (whoever he may be), it means that he will strive to love me as Christ loves the church, giving himself up for her, washing her in the Word.